It can be quite a challenge to salvage a failed relationship. You’re on pins and needles; one wrong move and the guy or gal of your dreams could be out of your life for good.
The steps which may seem and even feel right are in many cases exactly the wrong move. Instead, you should go against your gut instincts here and take a counterintuitive path. Exactly when you feel the most like calling is when you should shut off your phone and keep your cool. Instead of pouring your heart out, keep it under control.
Remember – while these techniques may not seem to you like the right way to go, they have been proven to work again and again.
Counterintuitive Technique #1
You have to begin by accepting the breakup. It can be tough to acknowledge that you have been dumped and you’ll more than likely have to fight with yourself to come to terms with things.
You need to accept things as they are, however. Your ex needs some space at first. If you want them to start missing you and think about the possibility of getting back with you, you need to keep away from them for a while. This is especially important right after the breakup, since they’ll probably be upset with you. Don’t make the mistake of bothering them about taking you back – this will probably completely destroy your chances.
Counterintuitive Technique #2
The second technique is to avoid any contact with your ex. OK; you probably think this is crazy and you’re about to hit the back button on your browser, but bear with me. This technique can really work – not only does this help you to come to terms with the breakup, it shows your ex that you take him or her seriously.
You both need a little time apart. It will be god for your mental health and will set things up for the third step.
Counterintuitive Technique #3
Next, you have to create an opportunity for the two of you to make a connection again. This is not as simple as it might sound – there are a lot of steps in between, also counterintuitive.